In relationships I generally hold back emotionally & that begins to take its toll. When its finally over, I want to be able to go on w/o regrets & holding back makes that possible for me. When things began to go down hill thatís when the insecurities begin to show. I like to do what I want w/o Q&A, once that type of behavior starts thatís when I generally end things. My current relationship she is a very secure woman & she trust me & we are so similar itís almost irritating at times. We have definitely been tested since we have been together. So I guess being fitted for the ball & chain is next.
Sportyball made one on 07/01/2008 @ 08:57 am
Interesting subject. I must say that I've not had much experience on relationships pre-marriage. The couple I did have didn't work out because she wasn't willing to commit. But really, my wife was the first legitimate relaitonship.
Jack Fengshui made one on 07/01/2008 @ 07:11 am
I'm still married to the first girl I encountered in college. I think the main reason why our relationship has deteriorated is that both of us have too much pride.
Powerball Pete made one on 06/30/2008 @ 11:22 pm
A lack of honesty. Facts, no matter how ugly they might be, can be dealt with. When twisted into what one thinks the other wants to hear, they become hurdles that can't be negotiated.
rick made one on 06/30/2008 @ 07:41 pm
I have dated but have never been in a relationship. For me the reason is simple, I am very robotic. I rarely show emotion/affection or anything like that and that bothers all women. I have no idea why I am this way, I just know that I have been this way since I was a child.
Mr. Fisher made one on 06/30/2008 @ 07:07 pm
My theory is, that despite what outward reason is given, the main reason relationships do not last is that either one or more parties do not appreciate the other's sense of humor.
Humor is quite a big deal.
If there is no laughter in a relationship, then there is no joy, and if there is no joy, then what's the point?
How many dating relationships do you have in your life before you find one that works? (Some of us never do find one that works, unfortunately.) The answer is “lots”. When you look back over your history of dating, what do you see? Is there a common theme? When you go through that long list of relationships that ended, can you find an uncolored truth about why the relationship ended?
For example, could you say:
Most of my relationships are ended by the other person. They get tired of me because...
Most of my relationships ended because we fought over money, or sex, or priorities.
Most of my relationships ended because I/they couldn’t commit.
I actually have two answers. One for relationships ended by me, and a different one for relationships ended by her.
So tell me, what did it for you? What most often inflicted the death blow in your past relationships?